‘F’ is for Fornication

Human beings can be pretty obsessed with sex. As a result, this is a topic that will be covered here more than once. It's intricate and will require more attention than this post. Nowadays, people spend a considerable amount of time concerned with who's doing what, with whom, when, how, and why. Most Believers don't have pre-marital sex at all and for some reason, this fascinates people who do. Notice that I didn't write 'All Believers' because there will be no hypocrisy on this blog. Of course, there are Believers having pre-marital sex. They aren't supposed to but everyone has a weakness. For some unmarried Believers, carnal pleasure with a willing party can weaken willpower faster than kryptonite drops Superman. That is their cross to bear and it is absolutely not our place to judge them.


The general modern view is that to abstain from pre-marital sex, is to deny ourselves the breathtaking experience of completely connecting to another human being. In addition, we're missing out on the most pleasurable recreational activity in the known universe. Herein lays the misunderstanding. Believers are not anti-sex. We're anti-fornication. Fornication! The mere word conjures up images of angry zealots pointing fingers, pumping fists and throwing stones. According to the Concise Oxford English dictionary, the word means "to have sexual intercourse with someone one is not married to" AKA pre-marital sex.


For brevity's sake, I'm going to highlight just one scripture that outlines why Believers are not supposed to have pre-marital sex. On St. Paul's last visit to Jerusalem, the church elders there told him in Acts Chapter 21:25 (KJV):

^"25As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written and concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication."

God's Word shows His intent that sex was designed for married couples to enjoy. As a matter of fact, marital sex is described as not only enjoyable but ravishing. In Proverbs Chapter 5:18 to 19 (KJV) a man is told:

^"18Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. ¹⁹Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love."

The Bible doesn't consider sex to be dirty but intensely delightful. However fornication among God's people is not allowed under either the Old or New Testaments.


There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin bride or groom. Those who have openly chosen to save their sexual activity for marriage often become objects of ridicule, curiosity or even on rare occasion, admiration. No matter what, there is a tremendous amount of peer pressure to just give in and "get some". Once it is understood that Father God did not lay down rules to restrict us but to protect us. To share your body with someone who is really physically attractive or really rich and smart is just not good enough. To share your body and life, with someone you're absolutely in love with is not good enough. For them to absolutely love you is not good enough. It is the act of commitment, a man and woman publicly vowing to spend a lifetime together. That alone is good enough and we all deserve nothing less.